The Tender Words and Actions Project

The Tender Words and Actions Project

"How many times do I have to say I love you before you believe me?"

"What more do I have to do to show you how much I love you?"

"Haven't I proved how much I love you already?"

If you are a man, I can guarantee that you have either thought or said at least one of these lines to your wife during the course of your marriage. Why is it that women have such an insatiable appetite for affection?

Well let's go back to the last time you had a really good meal. Afterwards you felt pretty full didn't you? So why then were you hungry again the next day? Didn't the meal keep you fed? Wasn't the meal enough to take you through the week...the month? It is crazy to imagine that one meal could keep you fed for so long, so then why is it hard to believe that your wife needs your love and affection daily as well?

If you think back on a good time of lovemaking that happened in the past, it does not fill the need you might have to make love right now. Sure the memories are great, but the need in you remains and so you look to your wife to fill that need. In the same way, your wife has an appetite for your love an affection and it is not met by you just taking out the trash and pulling your weight around the house.

You will often hear Apostle Les D Crause say, "It is so easy to please a woman and the rewards from that far outweigh the bit of effort you put into it." It is clear that he has lived a little and understands a woman. No matter what you might think, it takes very little to please your wife and to make her eager to pour back into you. Tell her tender words and hold her in your arms. How difficult is that?

So memorize these two simple points:

1. A woman needs to be TOLD

2. A woman needs to be HELD.

The greatest lover boy of our time also knew this secret to a woman's heart. King Solomon wrote...

Song of Solomon 4:7 You [are] all fair, my love; [there is] no spot in you. (GMRV)
Song of Solomon 2:6 His left hand [is] under my head, and his right hand embraces me. (GMRV)

And he should have known because he had over 1000 women under his roof and the scriptures said that he deeply loved many of them!

The Tender Words and Actions Project

Apply this simple project to make your marriage sizzle this week:

Step 1. Make a point of saying something endearing or loving to your spouse every day.
Either leave a note or say it when they expect it the least. Whether that is a compliment or the simple words, "I love you" they mean the world to your spouse.

Step 2: Make an effort to show physical affection during the day as often as you can.
Make this a fun project! You only have to commit yourself to doing this for a week, so hold nothing back. (Of course after the week you might have enjoyed it so much you might want to carry on!) I am convinced that you can do this! Hold hands, give a reassuring squeeze, hug, touch, kiss, tap, stroke, cuddle every time that you see one another.

If you are not used to giving this kind of affection, then it might seem strange to you at first, but press on. The more you do it, the more comfortable you will feel with it. There is a privilege we all share by being married. That privilege is being able to touch and be touched by the one person we love, any time and any place. Make the most of it and enjoy each moment!

Be sure to share your experiences with the other couples on the forum so that you can swap notes and fellowship about what God is doing in your life. Naturally if you have any difficulties with this project and need some help, please post your questions to the forum and we will be there to help!